What Is Sex Coaching? What Sex Coaches Do, Why You Might See One, & How It Differs from Therapy

When I tell people “I’m a sex coach,” they often look at me like I have two heads.

I commonly get asked things like:

• “Do you give lessons on how to have better sex?”
• “Do you just show people how to have sex?”

While conversations about sex are definitely part of the work, there’s SO much more to sex coaching than most people think.

So, I want to break it down and answer some of the most common questions:

• What is a sex coach, and what do they actually do?
• Why would someone see a sex coach?
• What’s the difference between a sex coach and a sex therapist?

What Is a Sex Coach, & What Do They Actually Do?

A sex coach is a trained professional who helps individuals or couples explore and improve their sexual well-being, confidence, and intimacy through conversation, education, and practical tools.

Unlike therapy, which often explores the past or works with mental health, sex coaching is forward-focused, body-based, and pleasure-led. It supports you in moving through blocks like shame, fear, or disconnection, and toward a more empowered, turned-on version of yourself.

Yes, we talk about sex — things like:

• how to enhance your pleasure
• express your desires
• explore different techniques
• communicate openly with partners

But a huge part of the work runs deeper.
It’s about:

• Reclaiming your sensual power
• Reconnecting with your body
• Embodying your unique erotic essence
• Cultivating self-love and sexual confidence

Ultimately, sex coaching supports you to step into a more empowered, turned-on and confident version of yourself, so you can experience intimacy that feels alive, connected and deeply satisfying.

Why Would Someone See a Sex Coach?

People work with a sex coach for all kinds of reasons. At the heart of it, most are seeking more pleasure, connection, confidence, and freedom in their intimate lives.

Some common reasons include:

• Feeling disconnected from your body, desire, or pleasure
• Low libido or lack of desire
• Wanting to feel more confident and relaxed in the bedroom
• Learning how to orgasm (or explore different types of orgasms)
• Overcoming painful sex, numbness or lack of sensation
• Reigniting intimacy or passion in a long-term relationship
• Navigating mismatched desire or performance anxiety
• Exploring new desires, fantasies or kinks in a shame-free space
• Building confidence around sex, dating or self-expression
• Reclaiming sensuality after trauma, childbirth, heartbreak or big transitions
• Learning how to express boundaries and ask for what you want

And sometimes…
You just know there’s more available — more depth, more turn-on, more aliveness — and you’re ready to explore it.

What’s The Difference Between a Sex Therapist & Sex Coach?

Both sex therapists and sex coaches support people in having healthier, more fulfilling sex lives — but the approach and training are different.

Sex Therapist:

• Clinically trained (usually in psychology or psychotherapy + sexology)
• Works with mental health challenges, trauma, or more complex patterns
• Often explores the past to support healing
• Offers therapy, diagnosis and mental health treatment

Sex Coach:

• Works with clients who are not in active trauma
• Future-focused, practical, body-based and pleasure-led
• Helps build confidence, deepen intimacy, and support full erotic expression
• May have training in embodiment, sexuality, tantra, coaching, etc.

It’s important to note: anyone can call themselves a sex coach. So always ask where your coach studied and what their qualifications are.

Both paths can be powerful — it just depends on where you are and what kind of support you’re looking for.

Ready to Explore Sex Coaching?

Whether you're feeling stuck, disconnected, craving more, or simply sensing there's untapped potential in your sexual experiences — sex coaching offers a safe, powerful space to explore what’s possible. It gently guides you back to yourself — to your body, your desires, and the pleasure that is your birthright — while supporting you to reconnect with your confidence, expression, and deeper sense of self.

Apply for private coaching here, read testimonies here, or email me directly at [email protected] to learn more.